Written by Sharalyn Vester LMHC, C-DBT & Dr. Karan Narwal
In recent years, there has been a growing awareness of domestic violence, but many still struggle to understand its complexities and the profound impact it has on survivors. The movie It Ends with Us, based on Colleen Hoover’s best-selling novel, offers a powerful portrayal of domestic violence, shedding light on the difficult choices and emotional turmoil that victims face. At The Wellness Academy, we believe it’s essential to explore these narratives to better support those affected by domestic violence and to promote healing and recovery. 1 in 4 women and 1 in 9 men in the United States will experience domestic violence in their lifetime.
Domestic violence is a serious issue that can have profound impact on an individual’s mental health. It is defined as a pattern of abusive behavior in any relationship that is used by one partner to gain or maintain power and control over another. This can include physical, emotional, psychological, sexual, or financial abuse. The signs of domestic violence can include physical injuries, emotional distress, isolation from friends and family, and controlling or manipulative behavior from the abusive partner. It’s important to recognize these signs and seek help, as domestic violence can have long-lasting effects on mental health.
Domestic violence can lead to a range of mental health issues, including depression, anxiety, post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), and even suicidal thoughts. The trauma and stress of living in an abusive environment can take a significant toll on an individual’s emotional well-being and overall mental health. Addressing the impact of domestic violence on mental health is crucial for the recovery and healing process. Seeking support from mental health professionals, counseling services, and domestic violence organizations can provide the necessary resources and tools to navigate the challenges and rebuild a sense of safety and stability.
Understanding Domestic Violence through It Ends with Us
It Ends with Us tells the story of Lily Bloom, a woman who falls in love with a charming and successful neurosurgeon, Ryle Kincaid. As their relationship deepens, Ryle’s dark side begins to emerge, revealing a pattern of abusive behavior. The movie does an exceptional job of portraying the psychological and emotional struggles that Lily endures as she navigates her relationship with Ryle, illustrating how domestic violence is not always black and white.
One of the most poignant aspects of the movie is Lily’s internal conflict. She struggles between her love for Ryle and the realization that his behavior is harmful. This mirrors the real-life experiences of many survivors, who often feel torn between their feelings for their partner and the need to protect themselves.
The Cycle of Abuse
The movie highlights the cyclical nature of domestic violence, a pattern that many victims find themselves trapped in. This cycle often begins with tension building, leading to an abusive incident, followed by a period of reconciliation or “honeymoon phase,” where the abuser may apologize, make promises to change, or shower the victim with affection. However, the cycle typically repeats, making it difficult for the victim to leave the relationship.
Understanding this cycle is crucial for both survivors and those who support them. It explains why leaving an abusive relationship is often not a simple decision and why many victims return to their abusers multiple times before leaving for good.
The Impact on Mental Health
Domestic violence has far-reaching effects on a victim’s mental health. It can lead to anxiety, depression, post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), and a host of other mental health challenges. At The Wellness Academy, we emphasize the importance of addressing the mental health needs of domestic violence survivors. Therapy can provide a safe space for survivors to process their experiences, rebuild their self-esteem, and develop coping strategies. It’s also essential for survivors to understand that they are not alone and that help is available.
Breaking the Cycle: Seeking Help
One of the most powerful messages of It Ends with Us is the importance of breaking the cycle of abuse. If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic violence, it’s crucial to seek help. At The Wellness Academy, we offer specialized therapy and support services for domestic violence survivors. Our team of compassionate professionals is here to provide the care and support needed to navigate the complexities of leaving an abusive relationship and to start the path to recovery.
Conclusion
It Ends with Us is more than just a movie; it’s a powerful reminder of the realities of domestic violence and the strength it takes to break free. At The Wellness Academy, we are committed to supporting survivors of domestic violence and helping them reclaim their lives. If you or someone you know needs help, please reach out to us. Together, we can break the cycle and promote healing. Contact us at The Wellness Academy to break the cycle.
